Funeral Etiquette (Guidelines for Guests Attending Vigils and Funerals)

• Clothing:Mainly wear black, dark blue, and dark gray, and avoid clothing with bright colors and exaggerated patterns.
• Shoes:Closed-toe shoes are preferred, and slippers and sandals should be avoided.
• Jewelry/Makeup:It should not be too flashy or shiny, and the makeup should be natural.
• Gift money/silk money:Some families accept it, but some do not. It is best to check the obituary or find out in advance.
• flower stands / flower baskets:If you represent a company or a group of friends, you can contact the florist in advance to arrange delivery to the funeral parlour.

• Go to the reception desk to sign or sign the electronic condolence book first.
• Receive a white flower or filial piety medal (if provided).
• Set your phone to silent or turn off vibration.
• Slow down when entering the mourning hall and avoid talking and laughing while walking.

1. Stand still in front of the deceased photo, for the deceased.
2. Bow or offer incense:
   Non-religious: Generally bowing once or three times is enough.
   Christian/Catholic: Bowing, usually without incense.
   Buddhism/Taoism: Follow the instructions of on-site staff to offer incense and bow.
3. A few seconds of silence, say goodbye or wish the deceased in your heart.
4. Bow gently again, then turn away and let the next person come forward.

There is no need to deliberately lengthen your movements or show overly intense emotions, be calm and sincere.

Families are often very tired and what they need most is support and understanding rather than long conversations. The following words are generally more suitable:

• "My condolences."
• "Thank you for your hard work, please take care of yourself."
• "If you need anything, please let me know at any time."

Speech that should be avoided includes:

• Ask about the cause of death and medical details (for example: "Why was it so sudden?").
• Comment arrangement (e.g. "What do you think about choosing another funeral parlour?").
• Comforts that begin with "at least..." (for example: "At least he didn't have a hard time walking.") can easily make family members feel denied.

• Avoid talking loudly or laughing in the mourning hall.
• You should not take photos or videos at will. If necessary, you should first seek permission from your family members.
• Follow the instructions of the venue staff/emcee to stand up, sit down or observe silence.
• Avoid frequent comings and goings during the ceremony. If you need to leave, you can leave quietly at a suitable time.
• If you represent a company/organization, you should respect your family members and refrain from discussing official matters in the venue.

• Before leaving, you can briefly nod or shake hands with your family members again and say "take care".
• If the relationship is close, you can show concern for the other person through messages or appointments a few weeks after the funeral.
• Don’t expect family members to “return to normal” in a short time, give them time and space.